First and foremost precious daughter of mine, you are a child of God, know your worth.
There are so many things I want to tell you about life as I watch you maturing into a lovely young lady. Things I want to share so that you’ll learn from my experiences, things I wish I had known at a very young age, especially the age you are now, thirteen. Things I hope you’ll remember and take with you on life’s journey.
You accepted Christ at a very young age, that is the best and most important decision you will ever make in your years on this earth. Don’t let anyone ever tell you different. Angels and all of heaven rejoiced that day, so did I. And knowing that you are a child of His makes my heart sing. And now here is where I want you to remember these words I’m about to tell you, because there will be times in your life you’ll need to hear them.
Respect yourself. Your body is a dwelling for the Holy Spirit now, it is a temple, treat it as such. Respect your physical body and know that it will age, take great care of it while you are young, to make that aging process less difficult when you are old.
Love yourself. You are you, God knit you together in my womb. You are one of a kind. Do not compare yourself to others, in doing so you lessen your own value. Be content with the body God gave you. Do take care of it, but don’t get wrapped up in what this world says you need to look like. You are beautiful the way you are. Know and be confident in this. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. ( Psalm 139:13-15)
If you respect and love yourself, then I really don’t have to say the following, but I will in case you forget.
Never base your happiness in life on another person. Your true joy will come by following Christ and being obedient to the Lord. Love God, and love Him with your whole heart. Speaking of your heart. It is a very fragile thing, guard it.The proverb says:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23
Be careful in who’s hands you place that precious heart of yours in, for in the wrong ones it can be shattered.
Know your worth. Know you are a child of the Most High. Jesus loved you so much, He willingly laid down His life for you. Never let anyone make you feel worthless. Never let anyone make you feel you aren’t good enough. Never tell yourself you aren’t good enough. These are lies from Satan.
Don’t cast your pearls before swine. Your virginity really is a precious, pure gift. It is God’s will that you give that gift to the man that is your husband. In today’s society, premarital sex is not only accepted, it is promoted. But remember, you were called to be set apart from the world as a follower and believer in Christ. Do not conform to what the world ‘accepts’ and says is ok. If a man trys to sway you on this, and trust me, there will be many temptations, know that this is not God’s will. A man who loves you, will respect you in all ways, especially in your decision to wait until marriage. He will honor you and honor God by doing so. And this is the kind of man God wants as your partner in life. Anything less, is not love, but lust. Please remember there is a difference between love and lust. Lust will never hold, it is superficial and based on physical flesh. If a man tells you he loves you, in order for you to sleep with him, this is not love. Please remember that. It is never okay to sacrifice your integrity for anyone or anything.
Don’t chase love. If you’re loving God and putting Him first, chasing love should not be a problem. As I said before, love God with your whole heart, and everything else in life will fall into place. That means love as well. Don’t chase love from someone who doesn’t deserve your love. Honor yourself and God in all your ways and He will place that love in your life. If you have to chase it, or force it, it’s not and never will be right. Don’t misunderstand me, you are called to love everyone, as Christ loved you. I’m referring to falling in love, to giving that special love to someone, to finding that special someone to share your life with.
Trust in God. This is so important. If you place your trust in Him, He promises to give you all the desires of your heart. Let me tell you, it will not always be easy to trust God. You live in a fallen earth, and you are surrounded daily by the chaos of this world. There will be times in your life when you hurt physically, mentally, and spiritually. But know He has a plan, know His grace will cover you, know that even when it seems He’s far away, He’s working in your life. Know that He wants and desires your trust in Him.
“For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29: 10-12
I tell you these things because I have struggled through every one of them and I am only trying to save you unnecessary heartache in life. I also know that you might not follow my advice at times, not because you don’t want to, but because flesh and spirit are always at battle and I know from experience, sometimes flesh wins. But I also know that if you keep your eyes on the Lord, focus on Him, strive to live in His will and do your very best, it makes that battle a whole lot easier.
I tell you these certain things now, because you are at such an impressionable age. And in the next few years of your teenage life you will be hit with so many temptations, mainly temptations that regard your body and your heart. Know that the Enemy is real. Satan constantly seeks to destroy, and if the house of your life is built on shifting sand, rather than the Rock that is Jesus, it will crumble.
Know your worth my sweet girl. Know who you are in Christ. Stay true to Him, and you will stay true to yourself. Always.